Wow, I haven't posted in so long! I just got burnt out from talking, thinking, eating, sleeping, obsessing MLC all the time. But I need some feedback now because I'm so lost.
H has been talking the talk but not walking the walk as far as reconciliation. We even attended one counselling session together 2 weeks ago. But he is just not putting in effort, which is supremely frustrating considering I feel like I'm being very generous giving him the opportunity to try to redeem himself after cheating on me and lying to me and hurting me and the kids so badly. He says he doesn't want to get divorced, he loves me, he wants to make things better, he wants to be a man, but he doesn't DO anything to get there. And I've told him specific things he could do, his therapist told him things, and yet he doesn't do them.
Quite often I think he has something very wrong mentally. He is still wrapped up in himself, in how he's feeling, in how things affect him. He is upset that I no longer wear my wedding rings. He is upset that I've become so independent. He just feels sorry for himself. I don't know how to deal with this at all. Can anyone help me navigate this?
Me- 35 H- 36 M- 7 T- 9 D3, D5 Bomb 1/21/11 EA/PA began 12/10? Discovered A 3/2/11 S- 3/3/11 OW gone- 4/27/11 H says he wants to reconcile, but lacking action
