It's me, Undie--your crazymaking friend. And I'm going to jump right in.
I'm so sorry things aren't operating in the groove right now. But you know I'm going to think positively, so I won't disappoint you. But I'm going to draw on my crazymaking behavior and tell you that what you've described to me about Dr. K. is making sense.
What???? you say?
Cycler, this guy is upside down about your financial sitch. What does a crazymaker do when things spiral out of our control? THEY MAKE MORE! MORE OF WHAT HAS WORKED FOR THEM IN THE PAST!!!
What worked in the past?
He made outrageous or combative statements and you reacted to them predictably. (Note, I did not say you acted to them inappropriately...).
He's pushing your crazymaking dance button, Cycler. Big time!
So go get yourself a Margarita and come one back here for awhile. Employ those 180s that you did before. He will stop this behavior when he doesn't get the "reward". So deny him that one.
What can you do to make yourself feel better? Would it take heading over to the mall and applying for a holiday job in retail? Could you head on over to church and see if they need a little help with altar decorations? Something to make you feel you're doing something positive for yourself.
I know once you pray and ground yourself you will get the answer to your residence dilemma. Right now he just needs for you to be the one to help him through this trauma.
And Cycler, bankrupty IS traumatic for both of you, especially right now. Be kind to yourself, okay? Big hugs.
About your D? Tell her you love her but don't let her make you feel guilty about things. She needs to know that right now, you and her dad have some big, upsetting things that you're working through. Somehow, I think you and she will find the words to bridge that gap.
BIG BIG HUGS.
Undie
p.s. When I get a chance, I'll find the link to your first thread so these folks can read that one too.
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
