Actually, it's her. She calls and texts him and he takes the calls and responds to the texts - sometimes ALL DAY LONG! Literally. I have seen the phone bill. He' an over the road truck driver and she works at his terminal. So she calls him and texts him while he's on the road to the point where mutual friends have told me she neglects her two young children. (She has 3 kids by 3 different men).
Liz,
You're deflecting, and enabling your husband's disrespectful behavior by making excuses for him. It takes TWO to text (I'd be willing to bet that the texts and calls are back and forth, and at least 30-40% are his, am I correct?), and he's flaunting your boundary. What did you tell him would be the consequence if he violated your boundary?
When my brother's wife was having an affair a few years ago, she tried the same cr*p, texting right in front of him and their kids. He told her "I certainly hope that's not your boyfriend you're texting, from inside of our own home. That's incredibly disrespectful of me, our marriage and our kids. If you want to do that, take it outside."
And she did, texting for hours sometimes out there, even in the rain a couple of times.
Who pays for your husband's cellphone, his company or does it come out of your joint family funds?
If you don't learn to lay out and enforce boundaries, Liz, I'm afraid of what you're going to find going on in your home while you're in PA.
