Slowly we unfurl, as lotus flowers

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Still just don't know if this is helping or hurting me.

It's definitely the latter.

You may not realize it now but you will in a few months. I have been where you are. My vision is 20/20 now.

Like LITB said, his dynamic is going to change in his sitch.

That's what YOU need to do. You need to change the dynamic.
How???

By completely dropping the rope! Go extremely dark with her except for the status of you D2. When you do the exchanges and there's nothing to report, THEN DON"T SAY ANYTHING! A simple hello and goodbye works.
You need to make her feel as if your dumping her! Why? b/c people don't like getting dumped. In fact when they get dumped they start to look at themselves more and try to figure out what's wrong with themselves. They now see you having more value than themselves. People, want what they can't or shouldn't have.

Stop holding onto the rope of the pictures! It is your achilles heal. Great definition-An Achilles’ heel is a deadly weakness in spite of overall strength, that can actually or potentially lead to downfall.

I'm not the only one that sees it.

Another point
when W asked why you needed the crib. You dont tell her your plans. Be vague. D2 and I are going away for a weekend.
That's all she needs to know.
It creates curiousity on her part.
She would be thinking...Hmmm, where are they going? What I am missing out on?
Instead you gave her your play book and there's no mystery.

These are the little things you should be doing.

It will come in time.
I know you can do it.

gr8