As 25mlc said. It is working. do what works, but while you are doing the LRT remember that this is for YOU, regardless of the response that you get from Him. You should be concentrating on you. He is responding from panic at this point and trying to " REEL " you back into his crazyness. Look at the statement he made in regards to Jimmy.........an active sober AA member quit without any notice or explaination? wth......of cource hes not gonna want to work with an actively drinking boss.....He got off the Merry Go Round to keep his soberity and probably his sanity
You need to keep telling yourself to Let God and Let God take control of your husband NOT you, if he so chooses, thats his won path to follow. Whats different now than all the other times in your marriage where you have tried to save him? YOUR different. your in a program where your learning to live life again on your terms............stop the thoughts of trying to save and help him. Put up that big ole STOP SIGN in your mind.
Please read the thread I started yesterday " I need advise " I had a very stressful Memorial Day weekend along with last weekend at our campgrounds with an actively drinking alcoholic " MY husband "..........I am going back to alanon, I have mtg Thursday, gonna take a friend with me that has an active A that is also a WAH. I need to get back to my program. Remember when i said this was a life long journey. with or without them. I'm gonna take my own advise. AND i'm doing this for ME, not HIM
Hang in there Tipper It takes a long time to change and I think your doing good.
