First, others have said it, but I just want to add, if you set a clear boundary, and he crosses it, and you make it clear to him this means you cannot continue to live this way, it does NOT make you a WAW.
IMO, a WAW is one who is running from the problems without putting in the work to try to fix them.
You need to figure out for yourself how much work you're willing to do. Have you been to Alanon?
We just cannot know when it is time for YOU to say enough is enough.
That is for you to decide.
I think the only advice I can give you is that you need to really think about it. I think you will know when you have given all you can.
Just one last thing, related to what I said above. One big difference here to me regarding what is a WAW and what is not. If you make it very clear to him, this is the boundary, and these are the consequences of crossing them, the burden shifts to him if he CHOSES to do so.
I'll be thinking of you.
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