Dont know if she is pushing buttons or just living her life without me. I really dont know.
She is definitely not living her life without you. She still wants to experience family ties with you and the boys, but she also wants to know how it feels to be single and sleeping with OM. Therefore, she's much like the child who will risk discipline from the parent b/c the child feels that negative attention is better than no attention at all.
When she thinks you may be detaching a bit, she ups the pressure. So, be warned.... b/c she will push all buttons available before she will be convinced it won't get a response from you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
