I agree with you. I need to enjoy the person that I am becoming right now and I have to admit that it has been much easier to detach from him and his problems since I have such a great network of friends and family, as well as the fact that my job requires travel-I have to get out and be social, for my customers as well as for myself. I just postponed my trip to Zurich (which was scheduled for June 9th) to later this summer because of a nagging feeling in my stomach about the fact that my H will have the kids for 8 days in the house and that he could access papers/bank accounts/etc. That was not the only reason (my company is going through some big changes and we will hear about layoffs and severances shortly) but I sent H a short and quick email that my plans had changed, the trip was postponed, and he could make his plans accordingly.
TG-he freaked. He called me three or four times (he has not called me at all in the evenings, and sent a text message and email). He wanted to know what would prompt me to cancel a trip 4 days beforehand. I told him I was in mixed company (via text and 3 hours later) but that we could speak in the morning.
I calmly explained my decision to postpone my trip-he seemeed relieved that it wasn't something more significant than that. Wow-did he get nervous that I was about to do something significant?
My friend Nicole (the girlfriend in Zurich) gave me some great advise today-why don't I deal with one construction site at a time? Deal with my job and me first (combined) and once this construction site is stable, deal with my M once I have a better idea of my situation and what I want to do and make this R. And let him deal with the consequences of his decisions.
