"D-Day" seems to be approaching fast

[ClingingToHope]

Just don't plead or beg. And see a lawyer yourself, especially before you separate. I moved out -- at her insistence -- in May 2009. I did not see an attorney until October. She didn't file until next February.

But by the time I'd seen the attorney in October, we'd settled into a routine where STBXW had my girls 60 percent of the time.

Even though I have the flexible job and wanted to have joint physical custody, my L told me it was unlikely I'd win it now because we'd set a schedule and the girls were doing fine. I'd have to prove that they weren't doing well with the schedule.

Don't agree to anything until you see a L.