I am really glad to see this post by 25yearmlc. Thank you for expounding on your sitch.
I have been here before, did a lot of hard work, and learned that forgiveness was the only way. My mother was angry and bitter with my dad EVEN AFTER HIS DEATH!! And I never knew how to respond to her continued tirades of all he did wrong. Until I started to read some of your posts. You have had some wonderful truth darts that I have thrown recently at my mother!
And, soon I suppose, I will be throwing them to my STBEX. He is angry, bitter, and hateful. He wanted a D 7 years ago, I DB'd, got us "back", and he filed again last Aug.
He became increasingly violent until in Jan he struck me and went to jail.
I am moving on now myself. It's like you said--life is short. I know how to make the most of what i have left, and I am going for it. I am so very thankful for what I learned here. It has helped me in every aspect of my life.
There are so many blessings that come from learning how to forgive.
