Yep, that's the attitude. Now, I can't say when/if filing for D is the right step. That has to be a decision that you come to. I think that defining what you want out of R, better yet a M, is the best thing you can do for yourself. Whether you get that from your H or not, at least you have a baseline reference point for what it is that you want from a R.
I do want to point out not to go into fantasy-land yourself, the way that your H has. Know that there is no "perfect" relationship. There is no knight-in-shining-armor who is going to make you happy and perfect your life. It's not unreasonable to want love, acceptance and respect from a R, though, and I think many of us have been so wrapped up in our spouses that we haven't felt the self-worth to want those things.
Still, you have to make yourself happy. You have to get content all by yourself regardless of what is going on around you. You have to become your own rock. And what a feeling it is, Shannon, when you get content in your own skin - flaws and all! It's the bee's knees and at times, I actually am grateful for going through all of this because of the woman I am becoming.
Keep it moving, girly, and keep us posted!
Me: 33, H: 32 M: 12 years T: 13 years No kids D-Day: 7/2009 Separated: 10/12/10 Future Unknown GITS
"There's a fire starting in my heart, reaching a fever pitch and it's bringing me out the dark." - Adele
