We have been married 21 years ( both 37 years), never any problems, 2 kids one 14 years and the other 19 years, away at Univ, as of last Oct. 2010, which I believe has been the 'spark' to her issues.
She struggled dealing with the departure of daughter to Uni.but when she returned after xmas I thought W was dealing with it. Did not think any more about it (clearly should have).
W does not work full time and since daughter away W thrown herself into her voluntry work more so.
My enlightenment came 7 April this year, came home at lunch time to pick some thing up and found hotmail account open with unknown name, but W names also shown as it can do. Content from sender to W explicit but w replies not so. Stunned and disbelieve on my part, W had little interest in sex due to medical condition.
When she returned I challenged her, she said it had been going on for a few months and was very defensive, later she changed her position and said it was not her, clearly a lie. W not a liar in past !
Following day she said that over the night feelings came over her that she loved me but was not sure if she was in love with me anymore. She also felt lost and not sure of her postion anymore, no doubt due to daughter at Uni.
Since then W said not wanted to discuss, her head was in her words 'mush' ( is this the Fog) and she wished it would sought itself out and says shes feels guilty for the hurt she has caused me.
Founded further evidence since, W only admits when really pressed, I had thought she would confess all, but no just what she gets found out on. Less issues arising and less confrontations from me, things seem more stable but not normal. She is very negative about all things in relation to herself.
She has at my request shut down the hotmail account but I suspect she may have others, and is very secretive about her cell phone, not been visable around the house like it was 6 months or so ago. W denies anything going on via her phone, but I suspect otherwise.
Is this her MLC and do I really not investigate her phone ?
