but I don't see anything wrong with you telling him you think he's been extremely unfair to you
and he suspects this. His "joke" would have startled me...as in, I might have said
"Do you think this behavior is FUNNY? Wow...
I think it's unfair as hell to me, and odd as hell for you,
but I'll come out of this alright. After all, I'm not the one gambling with my life and the life of an innocent child."
Not sure how DBing but I'd have had to retort to him b/c he's incredibly insensitive to have said that...seriously
and his behavior at this point IS a tad sociopathic. Pretty cruel for him to tell you all this stuff about OW...what's that all about ? You are his buddy?
MY sister's h left her after 22 years and 3 kids for OW...after 6 months the OW broke up with Brother in law and he told my sister he could "understand how hurt SHE was when He left her, b/c he had just "gotten dumped"
and my sister said "you think your 6 month R compares to a 22 year marriage and 3 kids, and that now you know how I feltl? Your comment itself shows how clueless you really are..."
Later on, just before she married her 2nd h (who treats her better than ex h ever did or ever could), her ex h called to tell her he "got it" and had "f'd up" and I believe he really did have regrets...too bad. She's much happier now than she would have been if they'd stayed married. Sorry but it's true. Her ex h was always the taker and she was always the giver...
Her ex h remarried too...to a real beyotch whom HE refers to as "high maintenance"...can you say "karma"?
You really will be alright. IN TIME...and much stronger for all this.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
