New - HELP! Tried the 180/Last Resort & Failed

[25yearsmlc]

have you not seen a Lawyer throughout this ordeal?

There are such things as common law marriages and if they are recognized in Penn, then you have rights to profits from the house, the car, maintenance, and more.

If he had you on his insurance as his "domestic partner", then I'm going to guess that your state DOES have some sort of protections for you.

Contact a l asap and get a car so you aren't trapped anymore. Even if the state does not recognize common law marriages, there are usually implied contractual issues you can raise. Yes I'm a lawyer but not giving out advice here, b/c it's against numerous rules EXCEPT I can say SEE A LAWYER ASAP...at least call to ask if you have any rights and then make an appointment. THere's a chance you can get a free consult, maybe half an hour AND sometimes you can get the partner who makes the money, to pay your legal fees. He'll enjoy telling that to OW...tough...

I am struck by OW's weirdness. How does he know she isn't absconding with this kid and taking him away from his real father? It's very odd. If she's foreign I cannot help but wonder how up and up she is...how does he KNOW she's not scamming him? The good news is that they've had very little time together so A LOT of this is fantasy...wait til reality hits him in the pocketbook and face.

The more he sees that you are actually feeling pretty good, the more he'll wonder about how much of loss HE might be facing down the road. How old is he? What's his job/grad school field? And you are also a college grad? You write very well, fyi.

Back to ow...Thank GOD she's so weird b/c after a few events in real life, she might not be so appealing. Honestly, how can she be? Maybe he wanted the drama of a nutcase or rescue mission, but that wears out...

And I don't think the child will readily accept a new home, new school and new man....happily, anytime soon. Unless he's leaving a slum, and I think the marriage plans might be delayed BY HER.

What a wacky MLC...then again, my h was obsessed by Alaska and going back there at all costs...long story, but I could NOT reach him when he was in his fog. He told me I was "irrational" to oppose the move, which required moving our son and older d out of high school TWICE so he could do a fellowship in one place only to end up moving to Alaska (where we lived for 3 years a decade earlier and ALL of us hated the winters, which last 9 months) and losing a ton of money "temporarily b/c in Alaska he'd make millions"....
and blah blah blah


So after 2 years of "touch and go's" and the loss of 6 figures of income and savings (I filed for a separation to make sure he didn't mortgage the house as an "investment" up there...) and he had an awakening while up there, and we began to piece. And we're in a good place now. IN CALIFORNIA....fyi

He really ought to be paying you something at least for a transitional period. Can you access any of the accounts?

Hang in there, take a cab to get your meds if you have to, that's a priority.

((( hugs )))