Just checking in on you 9 to see how you are doing.
Like you, I went through a bunch of my emails with W a few weeks ago, wondering where it all went wrong. I think that was my attempt at closure. It was painful, but perhaps necessary.
I can't imagine, though, the pain you are going through with your kids and OM. W and I had no kids together, so I have no way to understand the hurt you must be going through. All I can say is try to remain strong (or at least appear it) around the kids.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011