You love her. She keeps this stirred by contacting you every day. Oh, yes I know that the children are used as the excuse for the contact....but that's all it is. I'm sure it seems legit to you when you call or email her about one of the boys, but it's an excuse. I've know divorced people who never, NEVER, contacted each other and had little children. It can be done!
All good stuff from Sandi! This above is the most poignant, from where I sit right now...
Personally, I never thought it was possible to have n/c when there are kids involved.
I've heard, over and over and over again that because there are kids involved, there has to be contact.
That is true, but how much contact is obviously dependent on the arrangements made.
For me, I've been told that we should allow flexibility. I am now quite certain that it is the flexibility that is my excuse to allow for contact.
Do what works for you nine. I am absolutely certain you are getting great advice from Sandi and 25!
