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And always LOOK your best and BE your best, in case chance encounters with her might happen or friends who see you tell your W how happy you are and good you look...

and the side effect...? We actually begin to believe we look good and feel good...

Thanks KD. I actually do feel really good these days. My kids have made a world of difference for me in being happy. I have no other choice than to be the best I can for them.

Update on my progress on reducing contact with my W.

Her mom is back in the hospital after being released on Friday. When she called to let me know about her mom being released, I let the call go to VM. I didn't know why she was calling, nor did I feel like talking to her at the time. I had the kids call her back when I got home about an hour later. After they were done talking I ended the call, because I still didn't feel like talking to her. Apparently she wanted to talk to me.

She called Saturday morning while I was on the phone and left another message. She said that D8 must have not told me that she wanted to talk to give me an update on her mom. Our D didn’t. I called her back, listened and told her that I was glad that her mom is better and back home. In the evening, she called again to tell me she was back in the ER with her mom. Then during the night she sends me a text letting me know her mom is getting admitted. When I replied this morning, she called to let me know that her mom has a blood clot and will be in the hospital for 3-4 more days. The only reply I had was, “I’m glad that you didn’t wait and took her back to the hospital.”

It’s getting old TBH. Last Monday I told her that I wished that I could be there for her and that I missed her. She blasted me for not being there for her before and told me she was so sick of me that she didn’t want to be around me. I get we had an emotional disconnect and I’m willing to work through those issues. To say that I wasn’t there for her before is complete nonsense. It is amazing how many positive things a WAS forgets.

Well, I meet with my L on Wednesday to go over my case on custody of our kids. I’m sure things will get more interesting for my sitch in the next couple of weeks. The reduced contact might just happen on its own. We shall see.