9 Thats why I think that a period of just me and her is important. We need to learn to take care of each others needs before we go seeking for it elsewhere. If we do it once in a blue moon as you said to add some spice it's ok. If it becomes our primary means of sexual gratification that is not ok.
Secondly I want this to be a joint activity, if we are both having fun there's no need to keep score.
Funny cause at one point she asked if I would feel more comfortable if she got me a girl.
My buddies wife does most of the picking for both of them, and he doesnt mind since she is very conscious in making sure he gets to have fun too.
Their philosophy is that it's ok as long as everyone involved is enjoyin themselves he claims they are strong enough that they can put a stop to it if anybody feels uncomfortable.
This is going to sound crazy but we have both been insanely jealous over each other since we met. It felt great for us to do things like go to strip clubs or watch porn together, maybe we can take it to the next level maybe we can't.
25 I think the difference is that in cheating it hurts you that they enjoyed someone else. In a healthy open relationship you are happy for them. in turn they are happy for you when you do the same. Only couples that are secure with themselves and each other can do this.
