Ok, here we go. In Feb. 2011 wife approached me and said she has started seeing a counselor and really need me to go with her the next week. i agreed...and was attacked in the session, totally blind sided. The tyipical, she's been unhappy for awhile, wonders why I'm distant, etc..her parents who are retired, came up to "live" with us and kids while wife and I "worked on us" in Feb., MC, Marriage Enccounter and the like.
Thought we were making progress, then, early March in Counseling said she wanted separation. I was floored and really hurt like many on here can attest. Her parents still were in the house and I went to live with a relative 25 minutes away. Seeing our four kids 3-4 times a week but still kills me not to see them daily. 30 days later, she filed in April but we were still going to MC- just went downhill fast..counselor sucked. Always sided with her and felt they never offered any solutions. No longer in MC and she is not interested in other reconciliation options, (yet).
Her parents purchased a new house and wife will be moving with kids next weekend and paying them rent, I believe. I have read the DR book and countless others and am beginnning to do the LRT, now. I do not believe there is an affiar and she said that she isn't seeing anyone else. Said still loves me however, hasn't said in several weeks. I've made all the mistakes of pleading, etc., but really could use additional encouragement/ideas. I'm a very involved dad and everyone is in shock over the news. Mainly because people come to ME for advice about marriage as they looked at our relationship as a model...so did I! It's like I don't even know my wife..who is she. I sense early MLC, mild depression and brought that up in MC weeks ago, and they both jumped all over me. I can go on and on..but you all have heard it before. There's NO affair on my end, no gambling, drugs, abuse..Help!
