Totally with you hun! When H first came back home believe me it was still all about him and I fitted in where?
In fact we actually had a laugh about this the other day, H got a bit stroppy for a minute and then took a step back rephrased what he was saying and dropped the attitude, I couldnt help but smile and say "thank goodness for that I thought for a moment petulant child was making a come back and believe me I would so have been outta here if he had"
Yes keep things smooth but boundaries boundaries boundaries hun! I was chatting with GAG last night and cant push boundaries home enough.. Petulant child comes home but if you let petulant child run riot they stay that way and never get any better! H was horrid when he first came back in particular about contacting my sister, but I kept my ground and respected me 100% it took about six standings of my boundaries till I got sick enough of it to push my luck and state "its her or me who do you want" I then turned tail went to work and felt as sick as a pig all day, when I came home it was to a changed man, petulant child was on the decline :-)
Yes keep things smooth but even if you were sited as being the reason for him leaving remember half of his reasoning is utter twaddle, not to him but certainly not the truth either.. Do something about things you agree you needed to change and set boundaries on changing into a pushover.
Winge way away get your frustrations out and dont let them eat you up and poison your attempts at going forward. Set some dates for seeing changes, how long are you going to organise meetings, when is it time to cancel one and go do something else for you, when is it time for you to be tired and have a hairwash night.. When is it time for you to pick something you want to do and he might not but ask him to support you and come anyway? When is it time to say ok we are great freinds but we are never gonna be a couple! Set these all up in you mind, diary, word document, reread them as all of these reiterate you are a single lady with a mind and choice of her own, he on the other hand will be the one missing the bus!
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