Sweetie-wow...our situations are very similar except that you are further into your marriage. You need to draw some lines in the sand. First of all, if he wants to separate HE needs to move, not you. Absolutely not you. And what are you doing trimming the lawn, cooking dinner, and taking care of everything? You need some help and assistance. I am so worried about you. You are an amazing and hard working woman who has supported your family wholeheartedly and with love. Do you need to make some changes now with your priorities-yes. You need to be the best person you can be. Don't keep telling him that you want the R to work. Don't tell him anymore that you love him or PURSUE him in anyway. Let him do what he is going to do, hard as it is going to be, and start doing some GAL. What do you do for fun?
For me, with two little ones, I thought it would be impossible to GAL. Guess what I did...I joined a soccer team...starting meeting friends for a glass of wine. Don't join his friends, start reaching out and developing your own personal support network. I know it is so hard when you feel like you have to do everything (and trust me, I know that feeling) but you have to pull back. He KNOWS he has it good and that is why he doesn't want to go. I agree with everyone else. If anyone is going to go, he needs to. ONce you start setting boundaries, he will get mad but as my counselor says "temper tantrums are the spoiled brat's way of showing respect...wow, you won't let me run all over you???"
Thinking about you and hope that you are doing well. SLH
