Oh my, Tad, she is contacting you every day and you wish she wasn't? This is a HUGE thing you can do as a turnaround. Stop answering/responding. Unless it is TRULY an emergency, just don't answer a text/email/phone call. You don't have to give any explanation. Just ignore it.
My XH did this too--not as often, mind you, but every week on M or T night at the same time he'd throw a text my way or an email that would be just a sort of "I sent off for our marriage license duplicate; have you talked to your lawyer again?" Stuff like that. And because I was SO desperate for him to pay attention to me, because I told myself that maybe someday, he would be NICE, I fell for it. Over and over again. And invariably I'd end up hurting. My doctor noticed a pattern where I'd be in this bad depressed funk that I couldn't get out of and she'd retrace the steps and ALWAYS it began with him contacting me over "nothing important" and me responding. She said "homework this month is do not respond. Unless it is life and death, unless it is a very serious timely issue concerning the divorce settlement, do NOT respond." The first time that he contacted and I was about to, I came here and said "what should I do" and everyone said LET IT GO. And it was SO hard. But the more you do it, the less it hurts and the more you realize that you are more peaceful as a result.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
