Soon you'll see that forgiveness, & not snooping, and letting go are all actually FOR US first...the R's second...
so no, it's not selfish. It's a way to survive this ordeal and come out the other side, a better, more contented person.
It means less self inflcted pain. Like I said, at the beginning of my h's MLC or whatever it was, I was CONSUMED BY PAIN AND ANGER...ME...
not h. ME. And my kids...I was so preoccupied with MY PAIN and anger, like twins that were attached to me, I went nowhere and met no one without telling them the big UNFAIR thing my h was "doing to ME"...
I became a real drag. Thank God for the 2 x 4's my older sister gave me. Then I came here.
I changed. The m changed and h changed. Even our kids changed.
It's better now. Keep working and looking within, it really is where the main journey lays.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
