Won't stand for a broken family

[Timetotry]

Patience, no negativity and keep home smooth and paved, DB method.

IC and everyone I know, cut him off. DB method won't work on him.

DB says do what works too. Is what I am doing working?

Have I gotten any closer to my goal?

Since 2/18, yes, I have made it so H is confused and considering new start. However, there has not been any progress other than no negativity and him coming around more for some family time. That happenend even in March. So I wonder, is what am I doing working? Do I need to give it time? Or do I shut his time to come around and hang at the house and around me?

IC and some thinks he is using me for his own benefit. I feel this way sometimes too. Other times I think he is trying in his own way.

I know that I need to focus on me and detach but his coming around or even us going out to dinner tonight makes it difficult for me to do that. He is talking future things too. "We should go there" "Next time we should do this", etc. How am I not going to read into this?

Yes, it would be so much easier to quit and move on and shut the door. But I cannot face that fear and it gets me so frustrated with myself.

The billion dollar question...is what I am doing working?