Thanks y'all, for the hugs and advice. Yes, I think it is time for the S/D. WCW, I really don't know why he stayed married to me, if he doesn't love me. Maybe he is comfortable in the M? I have asked him ... he has no answer, as usual.
I am visiting my niece this week in the U.S., and it's great to just lie around and chat, or go shopping. She has more pain than me, so I am glad to listen (yet she patiently listens to me too). Her H was killed in Iraq, so really, I have not much to complain about.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
NW. I am back now, and had a good time. I hope my niece will move on soon ... it's been 4 years ... but, in her own time.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Thanks Cat! I'm starting to think the opposite though. It seems my H thinks he has been trying all along, these past 5/6 years, but I just didn't hear him, or notice. Gosh darn it ... I was waiting for those words, for those actions, but seems I misheard him. He, who is the Great Communicator. He sure didn't try different ways to get through to me, as I did. Or, maybe he did, and I didn't hear him. Maybe he tried ESP, and my mind wasn't in tune that day. Of course, my trusting him was on his timetable, not mine. I have come to believe my H is a jerk. He comes across as such a nice guy, who wouldn't hurt a fly, but ultimately, only cares for himself, and will give as much as he wants of himself, and no more. There is no sacrificing for him ... oh, no. So, I will give him what he wants ... his freedom, and hope he is happy with that. I will take as much as I can (he did say I can have "everything") and we will see how much that is.
I am officially done. He can have his space. If he ever wants me back, he will have to work real hard to get me.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Being me, your ducks are in a row, get a divorce and move on, first thing Monday morning. Stop holding on with the "ifs and buts" 7 years is way far enough.
WCW You are a selective reader, if you will look on the threads of newer posters, I encourage standing. I do push those who have tried for years and have gotten nowhere. WCW, if I make you crabby by posting on a message board, you certainly would be a difficult person to be around.
