If he went from friendly to cold overnight, then I would think there was something "outside" of the M having a strong influence on his decision.
Another thought would be that you tried too hard to please him after he discovered your true age and you became somewhat like a doormat to him. If you allowed him to use that issue through the years to hit you over the head. Look at what your daughter said.
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Look at yourself so broken so weak. Whatever happen to the strong and independent woman I knew and looked up to?
Is it really your age or was it really the lie that shook him? It sounds more like he is not confident enough to handle an older woman. Maybe that's why he picks the fights?
If you are trying to save the M b/c you are afraid of being alone with two children....I don't know if you will find what you want from him. Fear causes people to act clingly and needy. Maybe that is what he has seen in you. I bet it was that lovely, strong, indpendent woman he fell in love with. The woman your daughter looked up to. Whatever you decide, I hope you find the woman you use to be.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
