I get discouraged that there is no penalty experienced by W or OM for their actions. But I understand that vengeance is God's. I just wish it would happen sooner rather than later.
Hate to say this CNS but she probably "feels" penalized everyday.....
whether it is right or wrong
whether it happened or not
whether she is MLC or not
whether she realizes it or not
she still "FEELS" whatever she feels......
Thing is she wants to "blame" someone else for that pain.
You are that someone.
When you are totally gone out of the picture she will blame someone else......
It takes a long time for people to "look" inside.....
It takes longer for someone in MLC to "look" inside....
She might not ever.....Mine XW may not ever.....
Truly letting go is not caring whether or not you have ring side seats to see that horror show......
Trust me......after the sh!t laiden path we have all walked as the LBS dealing with MLC........I wish we could all go about our lives and then get a little text when our MLC spouses and X-spouses are about to hit rock bottom and realize.....
Yeah, I want a ticket to that show for sure......
BUT (hate that word)
It just ain't gonna happen.
so fagitaboutit...........and really get on with your life.
I will tell you that just because you are ready to pull the trigger on DIVORCE doesn't mean that you are all done......which you are finding out.
It is just part of the journey.......we just get a little better at dealing with it.
The feelings you are feeling are going to come and go and it is okay, you will learn to accept that you are going to revisit some of the pain from time to time, just the way it is brother.
I am glad you are feeling better about you......
Fix yourself first.....that is what this is really all about.
Hope you have a great weekend!!!!
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
