Tad

I may be way off base here but you asked what hospital she was going to for what reason? Stop for a second and think about it....

IMHO, you asked because of one of the following:

1) You were planning to stop by and visit her
2) You were going to send flowers or something alongs those lines
3) You wanted to find out exactly what was wrong with her or what was going on with her.

Here is what I hope you notice about the reasons you asked....

All of THEM....were to satisfy what YOU wanted. Period. You may it about YOU and YOUR needs.

Try and take a look at it from her perspective....

She does not want you RIGHT NOW so it make no sense that you would give two rats as* what happens to her.

She TOLD YOU want she wanted and you responded with "I'm the enemy". In short you wanted her to feel guilty. FTR, she will NOT feel guilt. At least not know and honestly maybe never. That thought is NOT your worry right now.

I agree with Faith...you wanted to guilt and control the sitch.

Has anyone told you the old rule of STFU?

If not, now is a good time to apply it.

A few things that you need to come to the realization about.

1) She is in CONTROL of HER LIFE and HER ACTIONS.

2) You are in CONTROL OF YOURS

3) YOU ARE NOT GOING TO TALK your way out of this

4) YOU cannot guilt or manipulate her. In her mind RIGHT NOW, she can see right through it.

5) You will need to totally let go of her.

6) Keep talking to her and it will get worse.

7) She is in pain and in a crisis and NOTHING YOU, I, friends, family, no one can do anything about.


I will say it again...let go.

Am I saying you should push the D? No. Am I saying you should stop standing? No.

What I am saying is let go, heal, work on your issues and go become the man that God wants you to be. Everything else, leave it up to God.

Save YOURSELF and realize one thing......

THis will pass, the feelings of despair, loneliness, depression, angst, anger, hopelessness, fear and GUILT......They will go away Tad, WHEN IT IS TIME FOR THEM TO GO AWAY. NOt a minute before and not a minute after. You can try and force yourself to be done...or


You can let go......

You have 3 children....protect them from this. Shield them from the bullchit...Heal yourself....take a long hard look at where you went wrong in your M and FIX that...as for your W.....

Well she is in God's hands now....

Realize this is the life SHE WANTED.....if you love her that much...

Give it to her...

Send her on her way in peace...

Show her by your actions that YOU RESPECT her choices and wished although you may not agree you respect them....then...get out of the way.

God Bless,

Eric

"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter".
"Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!"
"Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans