I have been doing this for a long time. I have been divorced since 2007. If you want to save your marriage you have to stop what you are doing. MLC is all about control, control, control, control........ Your wife is in MLC. They want control because they think that is how they are going to get their "fantasy" life.
When your wife makes a response like, "I am not going to tell you what hospital I am going to", you can say, "I totally understand your right to your privacy" and leave it at that. I know this is hard. I made the same mistakes, learn from us.
My ex is still a monster to me and I kicked him out in 2006. He now has moments of being my old ex, but the monster still comes out. This is not about you, don't take in personally. I can tell you are, stop. They want to hurt you. Hurting people hurt others. They use projection to "feel" their emotions on someone else. That is how distorted and confused they are.
If you are going to make it through this, you have to change how you look at it and how you react. I know this is hard, but I can tell you have the motivation and ability to do this.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
