but there's a KEY difference in your sitch and the vast majority of WAW/A's you compare yourself to here...
1) She's pretending to ask for your permission (it's actually extortion, since she threatens to leave if you don't give it) and yet....
2) yet YOU TELL HER SHE CAN, it'll hurt you BUT "if that's her choice" (wth does that even mean??) So in her eyes, what boundary is broken?
None. You have no boundaries. That's what bothers me.
I've described this aspect of her behavior as self centered, immature and unfair. At times it's downright cruel.
The whole facade of generosity with the elaborate breakfasts is just what I said, a facade of generosity.
If my h were cheating on me w/OW, and we both knew it,
AND he was going to see OW on Sat nite, but on Sat morning he presented me with an expensive beautiful necklace, how do you think I should respond?' With gratitude & positive feedback... b/c "he's trying"?
Do you see how crazy this is getting?
And lastly, the whole military "F-U" she gives out, annoys the he!! out of me.
I'm a veteran and married to a bird, (&and a doctor) so I know that the wives' things can feel a bit confining. As an officer myself I was treated fine. As a "dependent wife" I was treated fairly well and honestly, it's the same in the civilian world. The "bosses wife" gets the same hassle/dislike/favors that they may get in the military.
So what? She knew when she married you that you were MILITARY
and guess what? NEWSFLASH...in the Corporate world, her described behavior, would hurt your career. I've seen that w/my own eyes. What's with all the resentment she has against...what? Success? People who can cope with authority? I don't get it...major baggage...
Your military career deserves RESPECT, not silly childish contempt, which is exactly what her expressed wish was for, contempt.
Why on earth did she marry a man in the service?
(You don't want to know my next question, so I won't ask it...)
I have no idea what types of families you guys came from or how much you like the drama of this
maybe you took the high risk assignment in combat, like you chose the high risk marriage... but the thing is...
I just don't see the upside.
Where's the "Standing Freaking Ovation" emoticon???
