Never thought I would be back here again... 2

[25yearsmlc]

I told him that he says I never showed him love and he listed all the LL's off but MINE. I said, I may not be good at your LL but I tried and I showed you love in my LL all the time. He said he knew. Then I asked him what more could I do. He said nothing (of course). Then we said goodbye.


WHYYYYY????

You know better than to do this...NO MORE R TALK...NONE can be initiated by you. Ever...seriously...

When you argue, you force him to say it again, and to think it again and it CEMENTS the negatives in his mind...now they're REALLY solid...

if you think his reviews are way off, say "Wow, that's not how I recall it but I'm sorry you were hurt"

But if he says something legit, OWN IT without falling on your sword

like "If I had it to do over there's lots of things I'd do differently".

You have to show him BY ACTION that m to you in the future, would be different than it is now.


And you don't do that by arguing about how good a w you were when he says you were not.

Sorry.

Let him go, since he's gone anyhow. And let him discover the way one discovers FROM A DISTANCE that things were not so bad...

let him miss you (see MY timeline, not yours)

In his eyes you've had years to get this right

In your eyes things were good or if not, they were HIS issue.

If your memory is more accurate then that will be revealed IN TIME...and love will resurface.

((( )))