The issue with FIL and H isn't really a high priority to me...DD and FIL have as close a relationship as they can right now...hopefully it'll get even closer as we'll have a better opportunity to see them now that we live closer. I don't let H's issues become my issues these days unless I'm left without a choice (i.e. a year and a half ago when the car we jointly owned was repo'd because he stopped making payments on it...he had car and I was unaware of all of it). I've told H that as DD's mother, and her primary caregiver, provider, and active parent for 2 1/2 years now, I do what I feel is in her best interest and though I hear what he says in regards to FIL, that is his issue, not mine, and not DD's, so he has to accept the fact that she will be in his life whether H and FIL are on speaking terms or not.
me 32 H 30 T 8 years M ~5 years DD 3 years first d-bomb dec 06 second bomb may 07 third bomb july 08 finally seperated jan 09 a move for "progress'" sake may 11
