I feel the email wasn't a big deal, you want to admit to your mistakes and it felt right to do so, admitting to your wrong doings is a good step in my opinion, as long as you don't expect him to come back running because you did so.
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Your husband is not responsible for you or your happiness.
We so not get that, that's why I want you to read "commited"... our culture has us putting our eggs in one basket, looking for our "other half" pinning all our hopes and dreams on one person. When you are asked to back off it doesn't mean to give up... the more you try to keep him the more he wants to leave.. I remember when back then ex left and filed for D... after the initial coniption I got it (sort of) and told him I understood he needed time... that slowed him down and made him think.
The other piece of advice embeded in the above posts is: Plan B - what if he doesnt' come back. I know, you don't want to think about it, but you must, and you know what? you will be able (at a much larger degree) to drop the rope and give him time... might not seem like it but it will give you a sense of freedom and control of yourself... as it said on "Eat, Pray and Love" the only thing you can control is yourself, and if you can't do that, you are in big trouble.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
