Words get in the way

[angel61]

Thank you Cyrena. At least my H does not go to OW's city often. The last time he was we were together for a convention. I know they do talk, however, although nowadays its maybe every few days or so.

Because of this upcoming event, I am getting the urge to snoop. Its as though I want to know where they are now, what relationship they have. My gut tells me its really just more of a friendship at this point but one that could still stir up emotions. To be honest, my H once had an "almost EA" with a friend at work before but ultimately, it died a natural death, and at that time, he never changed towards me. They are still friends now, she is my friend too, and she even stayed with us a couple of months ago. My feeling is that this present EA, though a lot stronger and full blown, courtesy of technology, i think, will go the same way.

I notice that my H also always calls me when he is in OW's city, almost like telling me where he spent each day and night. The gaps in time though are also the ones he spends with her, which really isn't much ( the last time was a lunch together in the 2 days I left to finish the convention on his own).

Thats true, the suspicion and knowledge gained by snooping made me into a person I didn't like and wouldn't want to be with. I am glad to be reading about your experiences as this really reinforces what I should do (not that I don't know what to do!).

Thanks again and I will try to maintain my inner peace.