It is really great to read your update!!!! I'm SO happy for you and your beautiful children! It does sound as though the pressure is off a bit since your H dismissed the D. You are very wise to remain vigilant about not sweeping what happened under the rug. Continue DB'ing and reconnecting in a truly intimate way. From what I've read on these boards over the past 2 1/2 years and in the many books I've read on this topic, if you can create a truly intimate R with H, including the ability to really communicate back and forth, your M will be happier and stronger than it was before.
I'm SO happy for you and your beautiful children! It does sound as though the pressure is off a bit since your H dismissed the D. You are very wise to remain vigilant about not sweeping what happened under the rug. Continue DB'ing and reconnecting in a truly intimate way. From what I've read on these boards over the past 2 1/2 years and in the many books I've read on this topic, if you can create a truly intimate R with H, including the ability to really communicate back and forth, your M will be happier and stronger than it was before.