What to do next

[JustStunned]

Journaling: Last Sunday our Daughter came in to shower after work. She was about an hour late, she was upset, but did not want to talk about what was bothering her. Last night she opened up.

It seems W was waiting for her in the parking lot at her employer. W wanted to give her a B-Day present and talk. The conversation became an argument, the argument got loud. Our daughter retreated into her employers building and W left expressing her righteousness. Last night our daughter told me she is giving the present, a blouse to goodwill. She said she can’t look at it without crying. It is too small. She thinks it came from the juniors section. She is still upset. There is nothing I can do but commiserate. She is becoming more estranged from her mother. I’ve tried to talk to her about finding some common ground, but she’s too emotional about it.

W is estranged from her parents, her mother particularly so. I was never able to find out why. She would only speak in general terms, about domination and abuse. The same things I have been accused of. When I speak to our daughter about finding common ground with her mother she tells me "Mom taught me well how to treat someone acting like she is now. That is what I am doing".

Yesterday was rough I was pretty sad and felt defeated about the direction this is taking, but after speaking with our daughter not as rough as her interaction with W. The ride continues.