I see where you are coming from Harrier. My point/thought on this as I typed it was the whole infidelity, cake-eating, walking away before trying everything aspect. I still feel the fidelity 'rules' apply.
But did I play nicely? No, I didn't. I had passive-aggressive tendencies, a bit of a martyr complex, low self-esteem and a whole host of other issues I dumped onto my W's lap. I started falling for someone else in the middle of W's R with OM (trust me, it didn't help:) I think one of the reasons we matched up so well is because we were both flawed in many of the same ways!
I might not completely agree to this interpretation of 'rules', but I do understand it and see your side. In either case, I need to go out there and play with honour, no matter what the other team does!
I don't mean to bust your chops, but I think that the WAS think they are playing by the rules. The rules the LBS help set. Even in up to and including infidelity, walking away and cake eating
but now we want to change the rules just because. Some WAS will honor those rules. but I believe the vast majority have to come to that decision on their own.
Boundaries and rules..those are really for you.
Don't let me confuse you. I think the rules on infidelity, etc are good ones.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
