STILL here...even after I quit.

[Queen_of_Swords]

My H has a bday this month
I will acknowledge it because I care about him.
Will I go overboard? No.
I will give him a card that makes no reference to our R or has nasty jibes about his age, and a small impersonal gift.

I care - he does not. I've accepted that. It costs me nothing to be kind.
What I do really doesn't matter a whole lot because his issues are about what's going on inside of him and how he feels about himself.

Just the way I've come to see things.