Slowly we unfurl, as lotus flowers

[gr8 day 2B alive]

CS,

I understand you're looking for signs and answers for things that may make this all work out.
The truth is, although we find our sitch to be different from others, there really is only a handful of scenarios on the boards.

The bottom line for all the "different" scenarios is to gain back your self esteem, be the person YOU want to be and start living that life each day. It doesn't happen overnight, geez, it took me quite some time to get where I'm at.

I don't have my W back. However I don't consider myself a failure. In fact, I'm quite the opposite. The information I learned through the forums have been life enlightening.

It doesn't matter to me if my W doesn't want to come back. She has so many issues within herself that she needs to take care of. It's not up to me to change her. People change when they are faced with a crisis situation, look at all the LBSs here you took the step to change.

I think NO-contact for you is your best chance right now to save your M.
You haven't given her a chance to miss you yet. Do you want to waste another 5 months living this way?

Stop texting her back, let her wonder what CS is up to?
When you exchange your D2 don't say anything to her unless you need to update her about something for your D2.
Say hello, and goodbye in a positive voice.
The shorter the convo s you have with her the more she will start to wonder what your doing.

Mystery creates attraction and excitement . You are not mystrious to her. She knows exactly what she has with you.

Meanwhile OM is exciting to her.

Remove yourself from the equation, let her really know what it's going to be like without you in her life. Your are still her back up plan. She knows that and so does everyone here.

You may ponder this advice and choose to not follow it. Thats OK.
But have you seen posts from people who finally get it?

They all say, I should have listened to xxx, xxx, and xxx.
They were dead on with there advice.

These are form people who have been here for a very long time.
Don't be one of those people.

Everything is right in front of you. It' s your choice to take action.

The thing with the LBSs is that we all think it's the WASs decision.
It's not. there are plenty of decisions the LBS has to make.

right now you're choosing to say in limbo, not rock the boat.

Greek once told me to face my fears and rattle her cage.

I did. and it worked.

try something diffent.
gr8