Denver - NineLives, LearningPatience and I have a 3 man "no contact pact". I welcome you to join it. All four of us need to stay away from our STBX/WAW and all of us having trouble doing so. Answering to others just might help you.
Rigth now, no contact is what we all need. We may not see it all the time, but it's true. And when we can't see it, that's when we need each others support.