I actually don't plan on talking myself out of making contact on her bday. I think it's important to recognize the date in some way. We are going to be co-parents and likely co-grandparents for the rest of our lives. Ignoring the day entirely just doesn't seem productive.
The trick is going to be to figure out the right way. To extend an olive branch of sorts without it feeling like I am expecting anything in return or have alterior motives.
Trying to focus on work now and ignore that itch in my brain to contact....
