Not only would that have been bad for the kids, but the fact that your W is using your D14. If she wanted it, well... it's obvious what she should have done...
That really got to me last night, and I am not usually an angry person. WTH was W thinking.
Another thing was D14 asked to have some money in the week to go swimming with her friends, I said but your at your Mums this week, she needs to give u some pocket money. D14 said w had brought lots of new clothes and was skint (even though w has just been paid) and had to pay her cc off, w told her to get some from me as I am on more money than her.... I did give her some. W has lost so much weight as well, but I don't think she looked good for it though.
I accidently called W when on way to work this morning and I had some cheesy music playing very loud in the car. I didn't realise until I had 2 missed calls and a text from her, I didn't speak to her or return her text as gone dark.
I have been speaking to a couple of our mutual friends again this week and they all think W is having a MLC. I sent the following to one of them, and I think it sums up where I am nicely
Do I still love my W, yep, can I forgive W for this and the problems in our M, yes, but only as I can own my contributions and forgive myself. I know what I want and don't want, and where I am. Space and time is needed to help us on our own journeys, I am on mine and can only control that, W needs to define hers, realise her contributions to the failure of our M, and own them!, only then will her journey start to emerge. Is this indefinitely? No way, but these journeys have boundaries. Wherever this takes me I will be better for it, where I decide to "get off" is my choice. What I do I do for me, the choices I make are for me..........
Been quite busy this week, and can "tick off" most of the things from my list on Monday, so GAL coming on well, friends have noticed too.
Me - 37 W - 38 D - 14 S - 12 Together - 16 Married - 12 Bomb - April 13, 2011 W moved out - May 13, 2011
The man I became is changing back to the man I was........... and more
7 months ago, I left the house. I took "my" booze with me (specialty ryes, brandys, etc; a few ounces left in each bottle). I still have most of it... Funny how that bottle of Vodka is so important to her...
Sorry. I'm just sensitive to possible alcoholism signs...
And... she thinks she gets to choose who your friends are...?
I know what I want and don't want, and where I am. Space and time is needed to help us on our own journeys, I am on mine and can only control that, W needs to define hers, realise her contributions to the failure of our M, and own them!, only then will her journey start to emerge. Is this indefinitely? No way, but these journeys have boundaries. Wherever this takes me I will be better for it, where I decide to "get off" is my choice. What I do I do for me, the choices I make are for me..........
Great attitude and direction!
It's ok to get mad at crappy behavior, but your attitude and the way you handled was excellent.
Thanks for checking in to see how I am zero, and faith
I had been so positive all week, not with where the S was heading but GAL. I dont know why but that little episode last night got to me. Dont know if was W just walking in, actually speaking to her when I wanted no contact or W trying to control me as usual.
W got the vodka yesterday as she had some girl friends round her place for drinks last night, 2 of which were our mutual friends. 1 of them text me to say that they had told the W that I was thier friend also get used to it.
I think I have done OK this week, esp not reacting to these little incidents. Why do I still feel like poo though when W's own words were she treated me like **** and had been a bitch to me.... I know I dont want that R back.
Just going to do some housework and tyding up then off out to get some new clothes for tonight.......
Me - 37 W - 38 D - 14 S - 12 Together - 16 Married - 12 Bomb - April 13, 2011 W moved out - May 13, 2011
The man I became is changing back to the man I was........... and more
