I'm sitting here practically having a panic attack because... my husband has used the word codependent to describe what he has been in our marriage. I never really knew what it meant. I just did some research, and it really does describe him. He was always so giving, and never complained. I was blind to it. He just seemed to be an easy going guy. But now I think he got to a point where he decided he was done, and then the pendulum swung the other way. I thought I was loving him, but when I look back, he really did most of the giving. In reading this, I feel horrible, A light bulb went on in my head. I read that this problem can be overcome in a marriage, but as I have said before, he says he's done. The divorce has been filed. I am trying so hard not to call him and discuss this. I feel horrible, like I want to apologize and tell him I understand now what he has been feeling. But I won't. But gosh, it sounds like all the things he has been saying. He either read about this or someone else told him about it. I feel so horrible. This has been so confusing, because I have been trying so hard to fix myself and it hasn't worked. But I believe the problem is deep seated resentment. Any suggestions? I don't know what to do with this new (to me) info. 25yearsmlc, I read the article. It really was great. I wish I had handled things like she did.
M50 H49 M 27 years D24, S21 Bomb 7/10 SEP 12/10 H files 5/11
Praying Hard for restoration! With God all things are possible!
