I went back and re-read what I wrote.

This is a more accurate statement:

If you can follow these ladies' advice, you have a chance...

of keeping your dignity and self-worth
of living a rewarding and happy life
of being the best person you can be
of living up to your potential
of attracting good, healthy people into your life


Your marriage might be saved. It might not. But, ultimately, you are on your own journey here, uncharted territory - and the reins are in your hands.

Give up the goal to save your marriage - you've done what you can towards that.
Make goals for yourself, about yourself.

As much as you want to make someone else see something, feel or think something, you can't. Believe me, that was a lesson that was very hard for me to learn, and took a very long time to understand to my core.

But you can do those things for yourself.