I definitely feel like he's leading the perfect life right now. He gets to be a husband and Daddy whenever its convenient for him... but I also know he's miserable. He's told me on several occasions that he is just so generally unhappy, and that he doesn't know if its me/our marriage that is causing his unhappiness or what. When he first left, he said he wanted to see if he could be happy without me. In recent conversations he has told me that he's not any happier without me (but then, is he really without me?) but he's also told me that he doesn't even enjoy doing his favourite things
Hang in there on the moderation on posting, we all have been through that frustration.
Your post sounds similar to my H's issues. I am 5 months S now. You actually have your H saying he recognizes he isn't any happier, believe it or not, that's progress.
Have you read DB?
Easier said than done but as I am told, it takes time and lots of patience. I feel for you with small kids on trying to GAL. I get one night a week where my H takes them overnight. That's the time you GAL, when HE has them. And even if it means going to the mall to shop, gosh or even going to Target to get stuff, its still NOT thinking about your sitch and doing something just for you and without the kids. I do that if I have nothing planned and make it mysterious to H, it drives him nuts. Not sure if it helps or not but I gotta think it does. Maybe it will help shake your H up too.
H:41 W:44 D1:19 D2:17 S:13 D3:7 T:20 M:18 Bomb:1/5/11 Sep:2/18/11 No D filed yet; just threats
