Please understand that my words on these posts are for you all to read, not my husband. They are written to vent and share my feelings, in hopes that others will have suggestions or at the very least will be a friend who understands. MY HUSBAND DOES NOT HEAR THESE WORDS FROM ME. I have been very cautious with my husband. And aren't we all trying to "get" our spouses to do something...come back into the relationship? Otherwise, why did we buy the book? We are trying to "divorce bust". But just because I desire something from my husband, doesn't mean I am trying to force something, or that I am not trying to show him respect. I want to restore my marriage the RIGHT way. Because obviously I wasn't doing it right the other way. So I'm learning. That's why I'm here. He called today about my car (in the shop) etc. I was pleasant, but not over the top. I did not say a single word about our marriage or divorce. My DB coach suggested that if he shares any feelings that are hurtful, I should resist the urge to react, but rather just let him know that I hear him and understand. But lately, he hasn't said anything to warrant that. He will be dropping by some time over the weekend to do some small projects in our house, so that will be a real test. But again...these words on these posts are not at all what my husband hears from me. But I thank you for your words.
M50 H49 M 27 years D24, S21 Bomb 7/10 SEP 12/10 H files 5/11
Praying Hard for restoration! With God all things are possible!
