You are getting an incredible amount of advice, you have a very popular set of threads from high profile people. No one really knows you or your wife. No one is in exactly your same situation. Some folks (on your thread) have been successful, some not. Some show their situation, some do not. I imagine that you have paid attention to this.
There's an underlying theme from most of your posters and the advice is wise.
I really want you to be succesful. For really successful people, they go internal. They center. They act on that center.
Ditch the board for a week or two. Center. Then make a plan. Act on the plan.
Before, after or during your centering--look at your data. The results:
What you do, what your wife has done. How you adjust, how your wife's behavior adjusts.
Center.
THEN make decisions about your ongoing behavior.
Items like timelines are artificial strategies, games, yadayada, and they DO NOT have deep meaning.
Center yourself.
That's one of the things I admire about some of the most successful people, and right now Jack comes to mind. It's not the technique Jack used...it's how he went about it.
