I respect your view on my situation, and there is a lot of truth in what you are saying. The problem is, to "back off and let him make his own choices" at this point would mean to give up on a 28 year marriage. I can't do that. At this time, that IS his choice. But it is a choice that affects many others. Me, our kids, our moms, and other friends and family. It would mean selling the house we raised our kids in. It would mean financial stress, maybe even financial ruin. This is not just "his choice". He made his choice the day of our wedding. Obviously, the final decision is in his hands. I cannot MAKE him do anything. But that doesn't mean I can't try to find a way to save our marriage. And contrary to what he seems to feel now, we really did have a solid marriage. He never once said he was unhappy. Our counselor feels that he is running from his mistakes, as well as any problems in our marriage. I can't just sit back and watch him destroy our lives. While I always have respected my husband very much, I don't think I did a very good job of showing it. His behavior now, however, is not really worthy of respect. Having said that, I am still trying very hard to give him unconditional love and listen to his views. It is just really hard, because his views are so hurtful. Thanks for your response.
M50 H49 M 27 years D24, S21 Bomb 7/10 SEP 12/10 H files 5/11
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