[Redo]

The plan was to send my kids to NM with my W in mid-July. They have been with me since the end of March. If I live away from NM, then I would get them during summer breaks, spring break, Christmas and Thanksgiving. If I moved to NM, then I would get them 50/50.

I've looked at the job prospects for me in NM and I would be lucky to make a 1/3 of what I do here.

I think 50/50 is fair, but not at the expense of my career because of her choice.

I should have hired a L in Jan/Feb. Honestly, I feared stirring things up more and really upsetting my W. Plus I didn't want to drag my kids through a custody battle. Unfortunately I have no choice if I want to be in my kids lives.

The way 25 painted the picture, helped me see my role quite clearly and what I need to do. I have a meeting with my L next Wednesday to go over everything.

LITB, these were exactly my thoughts when it came to child custody and my wife.
My wife is not out of state, but still about 200 miles away. And yup, my job prospects in her town are pretty bad.

Last week when i talked to her about lawyer trying to get the 50/50 schedule, she flew off the handle and guilted me of not thinking about our daughter. I think that was total BS.

I think all the BITS really showed me how important it is to make sure that your kids know both the parents well.

Good luck on your fight.