When the time comes for the boundary; when the gates come crashing down, the spouse should KNOW what they are losing.
What do you mean Jack?
I mean that I believe that your wife, should see you in the best light possible for as long as possible before you remove yourself from her sight.
Before you throw down an ultimatium/boundary that removes you from having them in their life, they should know that you have changed are better.
Me throwing down the boundary of "me or him" would have been a no brainer on her end if I was still spending all my free time on the computer and being a horrible father. Hell, I wouldn't blame her.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
